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Exhibit 23(a)
INDEPENDENT AUDITORS' CONSENT
We consent to the incorporation by reference in this Registration Statement on
Form S-4 of ReliaStar Financial Corp. and Subsidiaries of our reports dated
February 1, 2000, appearing in and incorporated by reference in the Annual
Report on Form 10-K of ReliaStar Financial Corp. and Subsidiaries for the year
ended December 31, 1999 and to the reference to us under the heading "Experts"
in the Proxy Statement/Prospectus, which is part of this Registration Statement.
/s/ Deloitte & Touche LLP
Minneapolis, Minnesota
June 19, 2000
